Hold off on those resolutions |
By Cathy Donovan Wagner |
There's an important step you must take before making a resolution.This time of year we’re flooded with posts about New Year’s resolutions. And don’t get me wrong — I absolutely believe in setting goals, and in writing them down. That’s surely a step that increases success.But I’m asking you to not make any New Year’s Resolutions. Not yet. There is something else you must do first. We’re a forgetful people (us retailers especially — we have a lot on our minds!). We so quickly forget what we did, that there are things we know now that we didn’t always know. We take our new knowledge for granted. But it’s imperative that you acknowledge where you started, and how far you came in the last year. Being aware of your own growth — taking a moment to really acknowledge it, gives you hope and encouragement for what’s possible in the next year. It allows you to dream bigger than you might have otherwise. Deliberately acknowledging everything you accomplished last year will allow you to dream bigger because it shows you how far you’ve come, it shows you what you’re able to achieve — what’s possible for the future. Being aware of your own growth — taking a moment to really acknowledge it, gives you hope and encouragement for what’s possible in the next year.” In addition to being forgetful, we’re also often trained to focus on the lack. We take for granted any new acquisitions, and only see what’s still missing. This isn’t always a bad thing — it’s actually our ability to see the gaps between what we have and what we want that drives us forward. But we have to find the balance of appreciating what we have and deciding what we want. So before you start driving forward, there’s one more thing you should do: Write down five things you are grateful for from last year. It could be decisions made, prayers answered, people found, relationships ended, customers met or guidance found. Our steps forward look very differently sometimes. They don’t always come wrapped as gifts. Sometimes there is pain attached. Be grateful for that which was placed into your life that’s leading you forward and making you stronger. The gift is the change that occurs afterwards. It’s always hard to start, but something magical happens once you’ve written down a few. They start flowing much easier. Savor that feeling. Let it spread and warm you up from the inside out. Then, share them. Why? Because the power of sharing is that it can jog other memories of items deserving gratitude. By sharing you are helping yourself and helping others. To recap: Don’t sell yourself short. See all that you’ve accomplished this year. Be grateful for what you’ve acquired. Write it down. And then look forward and find your resolutions. I invite you to take |